Gabay family

Parents Shelter While Their Son Killed on Duty

Gabay family

As rockets struck Kibbutz Reim on October 7th, Milka and Shabtay Gabay sheltered in their safe room while their son, Yuval, 35, was called to military service. He messaged his family, “I love you. I’m Sorry I’m not there to protect you.” Two hours later, en route to Itamar with his unit, Yuval was killed by gunfire

Parents Milka and Shabtay Honor Yuval Through a Tribute made by HaPoel Tel Aviv Football Club Fans

Parents Shelter While Their Son Killed on Duty

Gabay family

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06:30
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06:41
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~08:15
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17:41
19:00
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The sequence of events

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06:30

In Re'im, Rehovot, and Tel Aviv: The Gabay Family Wakes Up to Alarms

~06:40

Parents Lock Themselves in the Safe Room Fearing a Terrorist Infiltration

06:41

Shabtay: "I'm scared for Volks at the Rave Party Near Re'im"

~07:00

Milka and Shabtay Hear Intense Gunfire from Nearby Highway

~08:15

Milka and Shabtai Prepare to Defend Themselves

~08:30

Yuval is Ordered to Report to the Reserves

~12:30

Yuval Reports to Camp Ofer; Alon Returns from Sinai

17:41

Yuval’s Last Message: “I'm Sorry I’m Not There in Re'im to Protect You”

19:00

IDF Forces Clear the Gabay's House in Re'im

~19:30

Yuval is Killed

~20:00

Milka and Shabtay Host a Kibbutz Family in Their Safe Room

+~00:01

Alon Reports for Reserve Duty

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Milka (71) and Shabtay (66) Gabay wake up on Saturday, October 7th, at their home in Kibbutz Re'im to the sounds of explosions and gunfire. They quickly take shelter in their safe room. At the same time, sirens ring out in Rehovot as rockets are fired. Their eldest son, Yuval, and his partner, Tair, run to the stairwell of their apartment building, which is considered a designated safe zone. The Gabays' younger daughter, Yael (30), returned to her Tel Aviv apartment hours earlier from the Nova party near Re'im. At the same time their middle son, Alon (33), is on holiday in the Sinai desert in Egypt with his partner, Noga

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The Ravshatz (Military Security Coordinator) of the kibbutz, Harel Oren, informs the Kibbutz’s WhatsApp group of a suspected terrorist infiltration near the Gazan border, instructing residents to lock themselves in their safe rooms. Shabtay grabs a long knife, Milka gathers water and food, and together they secure themselves in their home's safe room

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Yuval checks on his parents and siblings' safety, writing in the family's WhatsApp group: “Good morning. Isn't Alarms just fum? Are you guys all right?” Milka responds that they are in the safe room and that the gunfire outside their home is relentless: “It’s like a drum orchestra here.” Shabtay, deputy director of the Eshkol Council and responsible for the engineering of the Nova festival complex, expresses concern for the partygoers: “I’m scared for the guys at the rave party near Re’im.” Meanwhile, Milka, a member of the local emergency team, coordinates the kibbutz security personnel from her safe room, ensuring she knows each team member's position

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Conversation from the Gabay Family's WhatsApp Group
Yuval
Good morning. Isn't alarms just fun? Is everyone okay?
06:41 07/10/2023
Milka
We're in the safe room. Gunshots are Like a drum orchestra here.
06:46 07/10/2023
Shabtay
I'm scared for the party goers attending the rave party near Re'im. Yael returned to Tel Aviv yesterday already.
06:46 07/10/2023
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Armed terrorists driving pickup trucks and motorcycles storm Highway 232, firing indiscriminately at passing vehicles in all directions. The road, located next to the kibbutz fence, becomes a scene of intense gunfire that Shabtay and Milka can hear clearly from their safe room

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Terrorists Riding Motorcycles
Terrorists Riding Motorcycles Photo: Security Camera
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Kibbutz residents are informed that terrorists had infiltrated the community. Milka and Shabtay prepare for the worst, dividing roles in case their home is breached: Shabtay would defend them with a knife, while Malka would use a heavy object to strike them. Throughout the day, they hear gunfire nearby and shouting in Arabic

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The family's eldest son, Yuval, a squad commander in Battalion 8109 of the Samaria Regional Brigade, receives urgent orders to report to Camp Ofer near Jerusalem at 12:30 p.m.

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Yuval arrives at his unit’s gathering point at Camp Ofer, where he completes a process to replace regular troops in the region, who are being mobilized to respond to attacks on villages in southern Israel. Meanwhile, Alon, the middle son, informs his parents that he and his partner, Noga, have reached the Taba border crossing between Israel and Egypt on their return to Israel

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Gabay Family WhatsApp Group Conversation
Alon
Hi parents.
10:12 07/10/2023
Alon
I'm fine. I have just been informed of what's happening.
10:13 07/10/2023
Alon
It will take me an hour to drive to the Israeli-Egyptian border.
10:13 07/10/2023
Alon
Me, Oded, and Noga are okay. We've just been informed of the situation in Israel, We're leaving the resort we're at heading toward the Israeli-Egyptian border. I'll update you. Stay safe.
10:31 07/10/2023
Milka
🙏🏾
10:44 07/10/2023
Milka
In the safe room.
11:49 07/10/2023
Milka
We are in the safe room ❤️
12:23 07/10/2023
Alon
Hi I'm at the border crossing, crossing to the Israeli side now.
12:33 07/10/2023
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After several hours without updates, Yuval finally messages the family group informing them that he is still waiting for orders. He writes: “Mom, Dad, I love you. Please take care of yourselves. I'm sorry I'm not there in Re'im to protect you.”

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From the Gabay Family's WhatsApp Group
Alon
We love you very much dear parents and trust you.
17:17 07/10/2023
Yael
True.
17:18 07/10/2023
Shabtay
We also love you.
17:18 07/10/2023
Shabtay
At the moment there is nothing new, unfortunately.
17:18 07/10/2023
Shabtay
❤️❤️😍
17:18 07/10/2023
Yuval
Mom, Dad, I love you. Please take care of yourselves. I'm sorry I’m not there to protect you. I’m still at Camp Ofer, awaiting activation.
17:42 07/10/2023
Shabtay
Tair told me about it. Take care of yourself. They are clearing the houses, one by one.
17:43 07/10/2023
Milka
I love you very, very much
17:44 07/10/2023
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An IDF unit, moving through each house, arrives at Milka and Shabtay’s home. They conduct a thorough search and instruct the couple to remain in their safe room until dawn

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While en route from Camp Ofer to the settlement of Itamar with his unit, Yuval is struck by gunfire and killed. His family doesn’t receive the news of his death until the following day

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The Kibbutz security squad visits Milka and Shabtay’s house and asks them to shelter the Montford family — a couple with three young children — until security forces can confirm the area is safe. Together, the seven individuals spend the night in the Gabays’ safe room

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The Gabays' middle son, Alon, a reserve combat soldier, reports to a field base near Beersheba as instructed

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Alon at the Field Base Gathering Center 08.10.2023
Alon at the Field Base Gathering Center 08.10.2023

The Day After

08.10.2023 AM

The Gabay Family Informed: Their Son’s Fell in Battle

10/16/2023

Yuval is Laid to Rest

08/09/2024

On the Anniversary of Their Son's Death: Milka and Shabtay Become Grandparents
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Since the battles began on Saturday, October 7th, Kibbutz Re’im was unreachable. Physical access and communication lines were both disrupted. It isn't until Sunday morning that two officers arrive at the Gabay family home to inform Milka and Shabtay of their son’s death. Devastated, they decide to leave the kibbutz and stay with relatives in Ramat Hasharon

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    A ceremony is held in honor of Yuval at Holon's cemetery before his funeral. The family requests Hapoel Tel Aviv Football Club fans, Yuval’s favorite football team, to attend the ceremony wearing red shirts. Afterward, the Gabays, along with Tair, Yuval's partner, and several soldiers from Yuval’s unit travel to the military section of the cemetery in Kibbutz Re’im. There, in complete darkness and under heavy security, Yuval’s funeral takes place in the kibbutz where he was born and raised. Following the funeral, the military allows the family a brief visit to their home to collect photo albums and personal belongings

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    Yael and Alon Embrace Their father, Shabtay, at Yuval's Funeral Yael and Alon Embrace Their father, Shabtay, at Yuval's Funeral
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      Yuval and His Father at a Hapoel Tel Aviv Match, the Team They Supported
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        Hapoel Tel Aviv Fan chant Played at Yuval's Funeral in His Honor
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        According to the Hebrew calendar, Alon and his wife Noga welcomed their first son exactly on the anniversary of Yuval's death, making Milka and Shabtay grandparents

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        Gonni Gabay: Milka and Shabtay's Eldest Grandson Gonni Gabay: Milka and Shabtay's Eldest Grandson
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